Requesting/Receiving Breastmilk: Introduction

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In the spirit of informed choice, Eats On Feets encourages full disclosure from every person who participates in sharing breastmilk.

Donors generally expect recipients to be happy to receive their breastmilk and will appreciate it if recipients value and respect her family time and her milk supply. The amount of milk a donor can supply will fluctuate depending on menstruation, changes in eating and drinking patterns, stress, etcetera. Recipients should not put pressure on donors to provide a set amount of milk, especially in long term arrangements.

Thanking a donor each time a donation is received is important, even when there is a long term arrangement. Honest communication regarding mutual needs is essential. Some donors may have a questionnaire and/or also request blood work. It is important to be open and honest with each other. Willingness to help defer the cost of pumping and storing supplies will always be appreciated. The details of milk sharing arrangements will differ from family to family and may be facilitated with the aid of a written agreement between the two parties.

Eats On Feets does not provide forms for contracts, nor official questionnaires.1 It is between the donor and recipient to arrange for this.

For full informed choice process, our network requires that offers and requests are made by individuals who are the legally or clinically responsible party.2 Siblings, children, grandparents, friends, doulas, breastfeeding counselors, nurses etc. are not legally nor clinically responsible. Legal guardians, donors, recipients, midwives, doctors, etc. are. The exception to this rule is when the third party adds direct contact information in their post in the form of a phone number, email address, FB profile or FB tag for the donor/recipient. This still allows for full informed choice process.

In this section:

1. Possible reasons to refrain from using donor milk.
2. Questions typically asked of recipients.
3. Screening donors.
4. Finding a donor.
5. After finding a donor.
6. Questions typically asked of donors.
7. Handling breastmilk (for recipients).

Further information can be found in ‘Additional Information.’

Next: Is there any reason why someone should not request donor milk?


  1. The suggested questions we offer are typically asked of donors by milk banks. The are not meant to be used as an official Eats On Feets questionnaire. []
  2. Someone licensed to provide independent health care []